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Updated: May 9, 2023

I have been in deep thought about change in all of its forms. Most recently death. I have missed talking to you and wanted to blog about death over the past week but was not sure what to say. As you know…

“Death is not an easy thing to even talk about.” –Belinda Kelly

Death is a major form of change and an inevitable part of life. Death makes people uncomfortable. Remember Rafiki talking to Simba about death and the circle of life in the movie the “Lion King?” People were not sure if it was appropriate in a children’s movie.

In the past week I have only attended one funeral but a good number of people I love have lost some pivotal loved ones. I lost 13 loved ones in 2009. So now, when I hear of another death I reflect on the loved ones I have laid to rest in my lifetime. I'll share some words that comforted me.

“You can shed tears that she is gone, or you can smile because she has lived. You can close your eyes and pray that she'll come back, or you can open your eyes and see all she's left. Your heart can be empty because you can't see her, or you can be full of the love you shared. You can turn your back on tomorrow and live yesterday, or you can be happy for tomorrow because of yesterday. You can remember her only that she is gone, or you can cherish her memory and let it live on. You can cry and close your mind, be empty and turn your back. Or you can do what she'd want: smile, open your eyes, love and go on.” -David Harkins

One person asked me in response to this, “I get the words. But How? How do you do that?” It is a process like everything else in life. You start with a decision in your mind. You then move forward in action.

One of the most challenging things I hear from people that survive their loved ones is the lack of understanding or guilt. People are often guilty about the words unsaid, gifts not given, plans not made and then the loneliness. “How will I get by without…? We spoke everyday, we completed each other’s sentences. We talked about everything…”

"All that you touch, you Change. All that you Change, Changes you. The only lasting truth is Change.” EARTHSEED:THE BOOKS OF LIVING — Octavia E. Butler (Parable of the Sower)

Death is change. Prepare for it as you prepare for life. Say what needs to be said. Honor and appreciate the living. Live in joyous memory of the dead. Don’t wait. Get clear NOW on your life and what is important. As one my JHS teachers, Ms. Aida Delgado, said to us all at her 60th birthday party recently, “Live Life Urgently Now.” She signs every email as such and adds “Abrazos.” Tomorrow may be your last day, are you good with that? Do you have a will? I mean you know what to do if your car breaks down. You know what to do if your child is sick. You have all sorts of plans for life events but do you reflect on death. Do you have a will? Not having a will impacts greatly on the people you love. Get one, the internet makes writing a will a LOT more affordable and easier, click here or do your own search for a legal service you find feasible to get your last will and testament completed. But most importantly…

“Enjoy life. This is not a dress rehearsal.” –Author unknown

There is no “do-over.” Get “good” with life, death and change. It is going to happen whether or not YOU are prepared.

I have decided to consciously do the most and the best with the life I have been given. I have been given a lot of talents and I choose to use them, share them and let them multiply.

May our loved ones rest in peace and may we live their legacies INjoy. Do it now. Make a list. Check things off and as Oprah Winfrey says, “Live your best life.”

May joy be your weapon. I am living my life



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